A time to wed…
When is the perfect time to tie the knot? What if you’re ready for marriage but your partner says you haven’t been dating long enough?
Darren, 43:
I don’t think that getting married should have a deadline; it’s something that should come along when the time is right, when both parties are ready.
Margo, 35:
I was with my husband for five years before he asked me to marry him. I knew he was the one about a year into us being together but circumstances got in the way of us marrying and I was as patient as I could be, waiting on the right time. We have been married now for three years and it is great.
Julius, 29:
Well, I think the timing for marriage depends on both persons. I really don’t see myself getting married. I have been in a relationship with one woman for the past three, going on four years, and we don’t see the need to marry. I love her and know that she loves me, but marriage isn’t something either one of us wants.
Melissa, 34:
If we aren’t talking marriage after a year or so of being together then what are we doing here? Shacking up? I want to know that you are open to putting a ring on my finger. If not, then I’m not going to waste my time.
Judy, 28:
My aunt was with a man for over 10 years. They never got married; he was always telling her to give him some time to sort out his life and their life together. He was working and doing some academic courses here and there. And after two kids and 10 years of her waiting, he left her for a job offer in Cayman. I don’t want that to reach me so if we can’t get married in at least three years, it’s a wrap. Because I’m not going to waste my years in a relationship that is going nowhere.
Carl, 37:
The idea of marriage is a good thing but the reality is a different thing. As man, I’m looking for a woman who is marriage material. There are times when you find a good woman, but just not the one you want to marry. I have been in a situation like that where I was with a woman for two years but she knew I wasn’t going to marry her because she was good to have has a girlfriend, but not as a wife.
Deon, 26:
I don’t want any woman to rush me into marrying her because we have been together for a certain period of time. Neither society, girlfriend, family, nor friends are going to dictate to me the pace of my love. Plus, what woman would feel good knowing that the only reason why her man married her was because he felt pressured into doing so?
Kay, 38:
At my age I don’t have time to play the wait-and-see game. My age is off the calendar and based on my life experiences, I am certified old and wise. So if I’m with a man and at the early stages of dating when I ask him his views on marriage he says something like, “I’m not ready for marriage” or he “prefers the notion of living together and doesn’t need a ring to show his love”, I’m gone. I don’t have the time or energy to invest in wondering if he’ll marry me or not a few years later.
Brenda, 31:
I would give it two-three years. If we have spoken about it and nothing comes of it then why should I stick around another two-three years? I’m not trying to get a trophy for most patient bride in waiting. No, I want a ring.
Dominic, 30:
For me, there is no timeline on when to get married. Some people get married within months of meeting each other, while some get married years after being in a relationship. I personally want to get married when I feel I have the right person and she is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. So if a woman can’t understand that, then she is not the one.
