Are you his sugar mama?
So you are dating this guy who makes you happy, and you have no problems doing things for him as you are in the better paying job, or he might not be working currently. And he is your man, so why not help a brother out when he is down? 1. He asks about your finances 2. You are always dipping into your purse3. He has champagne tastes but bag juice pocket4. He never gives you a gift5. He is always broke due to “financial issues”7. He is always telling you about the things his ex got him8. You only see him when he wants something
But are you his sugar mama? Is he taking your kindness for weakness and abusing your willingness to help?
Here are a few hints that you’ve been fooled:
Women aren’t the only ones who are curious to know what a man does, how much he makes and what kind of car he drives. If a man outrightly asks you about your job, your finances and what material things you possess, chances are he is stalking your assets to see if you have what he wants.
It’s definitely nice to know that a woman can hold her own, but if he always makes you pay, even for the engagement ring, that’s a problem.
He wants the finer things in life and can’t afford them so he will find ways to go shopping with you so that you can see what he likes, watch him try on a killer outfit, then listen to him lament about how he can’t afford it even though it looks great on him.
You will find yourself going over and beyond to cater to his wants and needs, yet he makes no effort trying to do the same for you.
If you ask a man how his day was and all he does is complain about money every chance he gets, he’s trying to gain your sympathy. He wants you to feel sorry for him because he can’t find a job or gets very little salary and wants you to offer to “help” him until he gets on his feet.
6. You have become his personal ATM
He is constantly asking you for money to do things as simple as getting his cut for drink money for when he and his friends hang out.
This move is all about psychology and is aimed at your competitive spirit. He hopes that by mentioning all the lavish gifts an ex gave him, you’ll feel compelled give him more than she did.
He is always busy and hardly has time to stop by until his bills and rent are due or he needs money to do something.
