Six red flags to spot from the first date
Courtship is a natural part of the mating system, and this ritual begins with an attraction, then dating, to determine compatible interests. However, before you get drawn in too deep, Bridget Thompson-Dunkley, author of Sexual Encounters, shares six red flags you can identify from the first date.
1. He is late
It can be argued that Jamaicans are always late but he shouldn’t be late for a pre-arranged date. If he’s the one who invited you out, the least he could do is turn up early. Mind you, the excuse he provides you with could be legitimate, like there was an accident on the road and so he got caught in traffic. But it can’t be that he was just caught up watching wrestling on TV at home and forgot the time.
2. He is cheap
Times are hard, yes, but cheap is cheap! If he is trying to literally save a dollar every chance he gets on the date, that is a definite no-no! Being cheap on the first date is an early telltale sign that you can expect no spoiling or lavish gifts from this one! And by cheap we mean gathering spare ketchup sachets at KFC, or buying a small drink for you both to share, even though the restaurant offers free refills.
3. He is disrespectful and rude
Your mother always told you that manners will take you through the world and this is so true! Whether it’s how he treats the waiting staff or the manner in which he speaks to you, a man who is disrespectful is a major turn-off. Is he disrupting the intimacy between the two of you by texting over a candlelit dinner, or worse, stopping mid-conversation to take a selfie to share on Instagram? This is plain rude.
4. He is too presumptuous
Because the dating rules are becoming so blurred nowadays, men are becoming more presumptuous. Just because you agreed to go on a date with him doesn’t give him permission to expect to be invited to your bedroom later on during the night. He might also be under the impression that he is paying for the date in exchange for sexual favours at a later date, but it is important for you to set the record straight from the get-go and let him know what is what.
5. He is too cocky or lacks confidence
You don’t want him to be talking about himself all night long but a man who exudes confidence is a stud in any woman’s eyes. What you don’t want him to be is cocky! If all he does is boast about himself and his accomplishments, run in the other direction, as a relationship with him would be an unequal one. And if he is at the other extreme, in that he lacks confidence, run in the other direction as well!
6. He talks about his ex
What woman on earth wants to hear about her date’s ex on the first date? It’s like he can’t get over her and you’re his rebound. Thanks but no thanks! If throughout the date he keeps on making reference to her or comparing you to her, you should take the hint. Finish your dinner in peace and vow never to see him again until he is over her. Or if you are up for the challenge, you can make it your personal mission to help him get over her even if it has been two years since they broke up!
