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First comes marriage…
All Woman, Features, Relationships
 on January 13, 2025

First comes marriage…

Lichelle Palmer 

THEY say you can never know everything about a person, but with this saying, we expect the ‘unknowns’ to be more of the deep, dark secrets kinda revelations, and certainly not these that readers share below.

We asked, What was something unnerving that you found out about your spouse, after getting married.

Javion, 40:

This was right after we got married, before she got a chance to change her last name to mine, which is an important fact in this plot. Anyway, I was adding her to an insurance plan, and her TRN kept coming up as “married”. I told them it had to be an error, because she hadn’t had a chance to change her documents yet, and wasn’t even sure she wanted to take my last name. Anyway, turns out her maiden name wasn’t her maiden name at all, but her ex-husband’s, a man she told me nothing about. And I was in fact not husband one, or two, but husband three.

Cerena, 32:

We were living in his mother’s house and I was taking care of his mom. I thought he was an only child, and there were always discussions that when his mother passed, the family home would be ours. When she did pass, two other siblings were mentioned in the will, for the property to be split three ways. He had never spoken about their existence before.

Malik, 44:

The night of the wedding was truly an eye-opener. The woman I thought was my virgin bride (we were in church so I assumed, silly me), was nothing like that. She was even more experienced than I was, and wasn’t shy about showing me the ropes.

Eve, 30:

He had been cheating on me the whole time, including right up to our wedding. I was one of those women whose husband had his other woman iron his clothes for his wedding, and neither of us women knew. It was long, long after that I found out thanks to Apple, devices linking, and his old iPad that he passed on to me.

Holly, 38:

He did not, in fact, believe in 50-50, it was all a lie. And you may think this story is going the route where he expected to fulfil his role as the man of the house. But nope. He didn’t believe in 50-50, or traditional values. Instead, he believed in being catered to, while I worked, and convinced me to have children back to back, then came up with the brilliant idea that he should stay home with the kids, and I could work.

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